Friday, October 24, 2008

In your face, HWW!

I keep forgetting to share this little story with all my Blogistan buddies. A couple of weeks ago, and shortly after CSJ and HWW were married, my mother-in-law was over because she had picked up my son from school. We had gone down in the basement so she could see the latest progress on the remodel. After my son went upstairs, she leaned over and whispered, "I wanted to wait until L was gone to tell you that I hope you know nothing has changed for us. Dad and I have been talking about it, and we want you to know that we love you, and you'll always be important to us. We don't care who he's married to, you're L's mom, and we love you. Nothing has changed, and we don't want you to feel like you're being pushed out." It was really very sweet.

Well, yesterday, I had called my in-law's house to see if my son was there (because my MIL picks him up every Thursday) and my FIL answered the phone. They weren't there (they were on their way to my house) but I had a short, pleasant conversation with my FIL. You know, the usual stuff, how have you been, how's the arthritis, what's new, and so on. After a few minutes, I say, "OK, Dad, well, I'll talk to ya later." and he says, "You know, I want to make sure you know you're still #1. Ma and I don't care who the hell he's married to, you'll always be #1 to us, and we love you. And, we told N (aka CSJ) that. Nothing has changed for us."

Are you getting the feeling they don't care for HWW very much? And, I'm sure CSJ just LOVED hearing that from his parents. Haha! I just hope they don't think I'm going to follow in my MIL's footsteps, though, and wait around for CSJ to come to his senses and realize everything he threw away. She did that with my FIL. They (finally!) divorced when CSJ was in high school, my FIL ended up marrying some hillbilly piece of white trash (sound familiar?!) who eventually divorced him, too. Then, he had the nerve to ask my MIL if he could come back. Obviously, she said yes, and they've been living together for a little over 14 years now. They're still divorced, but he has all the benefits of a wife. He has someone to cook and clean for him, do his laundry, haul his ass to doctors' appointments, etc. But, you know what, they're happy, so who am I to judge, right? My point was, I'm not going to sit around, ALONE, waiting until I'm in my 60s for CSJ to come back! I really, truly think there's a small part of my MIL that hopes that happens, only because she wants us to be together. Sorry, Ma, I can't do that.


BusyBeeSuz said...

It is great that the inlaws are so good to you, and vice versa. Makes life much easier for your Son.
They can see he (ex) made a huge mistake, one day the idiot will realize it too. And yes, you are smarter than to wait around and take him back.
FIL is very lucky. I could never take a guy back after that.
The hillbilly second wife, sounds very familiar to me too. ;)

Jerry Critter said...

MIL did it so she thinks that everyone can (should?) do it too. I makes her feel better about her decision.

Do you know why they have not married again?

The Girl Next Door said...

I feel you and the power of "in-laws" who still love you, no matter what. Amazing feeling isn't it? And they likely love you not b/c they hope it'll work out "someday" (ok maybe they do) but b/c you obviously ROCK.